We’re joined by author L’Oreal Thompson Payton to reframe all things perfectionism — breaking streaks, embracing shitty first drafts, and learning to stop waiting for the “right” moment (whatever that is). We take a hard look at how our own perfectionist tendencies show up, where this pressure comes from, and how it impacts others. L’Oreal also treats us to insights on her own practice as a writer, struggles with fertility and postpartum feelings, and the non-linear path she has followed towards success.
L’Oreal Thompson Payton is a Chicago-based lifestyle and wellness writer, motivational speaker, and author. Her work has appeared in publications like Fortune, Bitch, Bustle, SELF, Shondaland, Well + Good, and ZORA. Stop Waiting for Perfect: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Into Your Power comes out this August.
Links:
Stop Waiting for Perfect
The Self-Compassion Test
Check out L'Oreal's website for more of her writing, and follow her on Instagram and Twitter
We spent some time in Banff this past week at the Banff World Media Festival and that altitude really does have one thinking on a higher plane! Key takeaways:
Come to the table — whatever that table is — with a support system in place. You do NOT have to do all the hard things alone! If you’re wondering where that support system will come from in the midst of whatever you are navigating, we feel you. And we’re here! There’s a whole library of listening to dig into if you’re feeling alone. Dive in dear Reframeables.
Invest in good walking shoes and try out a new path. You’ll get to where you’re going eventually and there are some really wonderful things to see along the way if you put your reframing glasses on and look around.
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Thank you again for having me! 💜